10 Tips for Happy Married Life
These 10 suggestions might help you get to the point where you want to work things out with your current spouse, or they will help you in your next relationship.
1. Make time to connect lovingly with your spouse every day
A couple can significantly improve their chances of marital success by devoting as little as 15 minutes a day exclusively to each other. For instance, you could wake up a little earlier, and spend the extra time in bed cuddling, making love, and reaffirming your love for each other.
2:Compliment your spouse regularly
Both in private and in front of others. Even if your partner seems embarrassed or shrugs it off at first, the glow from sincere praise lasts a long time.
3: Love your spouse in the way he or she wants to be loved
We often make the mistake of assuming that the things that touch our hearts the most deeply will affect our partner in the same way. For instance, you may think red roses are the perfect gift, but to your spouse, they represent a waste of money and an allergy attack. If you don't already know, find out what your spouse yearns for, and then deliver it with love .
4:Take care of your appearance
Look your best for your spouse. Lose the ratty sweat pants or frayed sweater he or she hates so much; you can find other comfortable clothes that aren't a complete turn-off for your partner. This also means taking care of your health — including eating properly and exercising regularly.
5: Remain faithful
Accept the fact that you are no longer single. keep in mind your love for your spouse and the love your spouse has for you, your commitment and your vows.
6: Do things together
Another common factor of long-term happy marriages is that the spouses regularly do things together that they find fun and exciting. Whether that's ballroom dancing, bowling, playing cards, SCUBA diving, or skiing, participate in at least one activity that you both enjoy every week. If you have kids, make sure at least half of these activities are for you and your spouse only.
7: Spend time apart
You take a pottery course while your spouse plays hockey; you play bridge and your partner collects stamps. You don't have to love everything your partner loves, but you do have to allow him or her the freedom to pursue cherished hobbies. An added bonus is that separate interests can generate interest between you.
8: Be friends with your partner
The key to marital happiness and success is friendship. Some of the most important aspects of this type of friendship are knowing each other intimately, demonstrating affection and respect for each other on a daily basis, and genuinely enjoying each other's company.
9: The Terms of Endearment
Spell out the basics of the relationship in a yearly contract — or at least to clarify them. Most disputes that break up marriages are over sex and money. Don't let surprises lead to trouble. Marriage is like any other contract: its terms and conditions must be reviewed and updated.
10: Say "I love you" every day
This is especially important when you're not feeling the sensation of love; at these times, you have to actively generate it. Saying those three little words, and performing loving gestures, will warm both your and your spouse's hearts.