— How Donald Trump Can Save Your Marriage
This is going to be a the most TREMENDOUS video you’ve ever seen in your life! The complete opposite of a TOTAL DISASTER, folks! Donald Trump certainly isn’t short on superlatives and exaggerations… and regardless of what you think of him, you have to give him credit…the guy is a TOTAL sound bite machine. It seems like almost everything he says is worthy of attention… whether good or bad.
And there’s another thing about him that’s indisputable: Donald Trump angers the HELL out of a lot of people… and there’s a good reason why beyond simple politics and disagreements over policy. It’s the way he uses his language. And today, in this YouTube video, I’m going to explain how you can use this information to help you with YOUR marriage and relationships.
How’s it going, YouTubers? Brad Browning here with a marriage saving video today! Before I get into the meat and potatoes, I first have to tell you about this amazing quiz tool that I’ve created on MarriageGuy.com/quiz… and it’s a quiz tool designed to determine your chances of salvaging your marriage. The quiz only takes around 5 minutes to complete…and it’s completely free. Again, the address for that quiz is MarriageGuy.com/quiz! So head on over there after you watch this YouTube video and get on that!
Okay… so now let’s get into the goods.
So like I said, some valuable lessons can be learned from Donald Trump on what NOT to do when speaking to your spouse. See, when emotions are running high, sometimes we shift the way we use our language… and often in a very BAD way. We say things like…
“You never clean after yourself!” or “You always are late to my sister’s dinner!” or “You’re the absolute worst when it comes to remembering my birthday!”
Recognize statements like these? This is what I like to call “Imprecise Language”… and it’s Donald Trump’s specialty! Trump clearly uses this kind of exaggerated and ‘over the top’ language to gain publicity and provoke a strong reaction. Regardless of what you think about the commander and chief, this sort of language is extremely divisive. And if you notice from the examples above, this kind of “Imprecise Language” often comes out when we are angry at our spouses… once emotions rise, we start using superlatives and we exaggerate reality… and this is reflected in what we say to our spouse.
Now think about it from your spouse’s perspective, for a minute… let’s say for example that you accused your spouse of “never cleaning after themselves.” Yes, often times, you might be right. Maybe he or she IS really bad at cleaning after themselves… but to say he or she never cleans after themselves is most likely an inaccurate statement. All your spouse would have to do is come up with one example of him or her cleaning up after themselves to prove you wrong. From your spouse’s perspective, what you said is blatantly hyperbolic and clearly not a true reflection of reality… and as a result, your spouse will think that you’re being untruthful and condescending.
So how do we solve this issue? How do we make it so that you can express your grievances to your spouse without angering him or her? How can we cut down on our “Imprecise Language” and make sure that we DON’T escalate our confrontations into earth shattering arguments?
Well, you need to start using “PRECISE Language.” That’s right – little shifts in what you say can have a massive impact on how your spouse perceives you and I’ll explain how right now…
Let’s use the above three examples to say how we can turn IMPRECISE language into PRECISE language… that is, language that is IMPOSSIBLE to misinterpret.
In the first example… which was, “You NEVER clean after yourself!” – you know, we could change that to something like… “Could you do me a favour and make sure you pick up your socks after showering? That would be awesome.”
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