— How to Battle Complacency & Boredom In Your Marriage
You and your spouse have been together for quite a while now. You’re happily married and in love, but there’s one problem: You’re bored and feeling complacent. You may not know how these feeling started or where they came from, but it’s likely you’re feeling this way because you’re too content with your marriage. Fear not, there is a way to overcome these feelings and reignite the spark you and spouse once shared. I’ll tell you how.
As a relationship coach and marriage expert, I hear about this problem all the time – usually it’s a case of couples relaxing after the honeymoon ends. While there’s nothing wrong with feeling comfortable around your spouse, feelings of complacency and boredom do arise if there isn’t enough excitement, discovery, challenge, or motivation in your marriage. That’s why it’s so important to keep things interesting. My name is Brad Browning, I’m the author of the best-selling Mend the Marriage program, and today I’m going to share with you eight ways to battle feelings of boredom and marital complacency.
Let’s jump right into it.
Number 1: You Get What You Give
If you want excitement in your relationship, you need to be exciting. The best way to do this is by telling your spouse how you feel, and make a pact to address the problem together. If you’ve already tried this and nothing has changed, then you may need to make some changes on your own.
Start by breaking some of your habits. For example, if you’re used to coming home, throwing on your favorite sweat pants, and eating dinner in front of the TV, then make a conscious effort to stop doing it. Instead, look your best and have dinner together at the table. Removing the TV from your meal will make space for conversation and the chance to spend some quality time together.
Try to treat every night like date night in some way. You don’t have to go all out, but understand that putting an effort into wooing your spouse can make things feel like they did when you were still courting one another.
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