Is Your Marriage Worth Saving? (Free Quiz Tool Inside!)

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— Is Your Marriage Worth Saving?

Last week, I answered a difficult coaching email from one of my clients. He asked me whether his marriage was worth saving. He and his wife were married for 6 years and had a child together. Things had been sour in their marriage for over a year and a half, and this client tol me that they were on the brink of divorce… he said they’ve tried almost everything too – you know, stuff like marriage counselling, couples retreats, and even team building exercises. Now, he had just signed up for my online coaching program and I’ll be working with him closely over the next couple months, but at this point, this client is broken and almost ready to give up. Does his situation sound familiar to you? Is your marriage worth saving or should you and your partner give up? In this video, I’ll do my best to answer this very difficult question.

Hi, my name’s Brad Browning and I’m a marriage expert from Vancouver, Canada. I’m widely regarded as one of the best relationship and marriage coaches in the world, and I’ve helped thousands and thousands of people mend their broken relationships and marriages. Now, on to the topic of whether you should save your marriage…

It’s true that there are many, many benefits to staying married. Research has proven that married people are generally happier, more successful, and even healthier than non-married people. And it’s also true that it’s much easier raising children when two partners are committed to the marriage. However, some marriages are so toxic that the only way to stop the bleeding is to call it quits… and in some very rare cases, I do advocate ending a marriage if things seem unsalvageable. However, most cases CAN be helped, and I’ll go over some of the ways you can improve your situation later on in this video.

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46 thoughts on “Is Your Marriage Worth Saving? (Free Quiz Tool Inside!)

  1. thanks Brad for just confirming that my marriage is over and I don’t want to even make it work after all those things my husband has done to me and the boys and you know it makes me happy so I can move forward ? Just wanted to add I have used your programms before and after my husband lied and cheated and betrayed me I gave him second chance we were dating again and went on family holiday we have had nearly 5 months of making up and than bang! out of nowhere after our most romantic intimate wonderful and first and only one weekend away together just us no kids ha has done it again! he is a monster! I felt like raped emotionally physically and spiritually but close to Christmas I’m going slowly back on track. Regards you’re a great guy but they are evil guys and people and they don’t have to hurt you physically to be called monsters believe me so my advice listen to the inner voice and never ignore it! ?

    1. +Brad Browning Hello Brad didn’t expect to hear back from you really but it’s so nice! Thank you I know I sound quite dramatic in this comment but that’s the truth about how I felt and I’m deeply hurt. But there is already loads of positive vibe in my life and I’ve got my wonderful 3 sons and most amazing friends ever! All the best and you take care too! ?

    2. +dasun kaluarachchi I don’t want to save my marriage Dasun but thank you ? my marriage was a deceit and I’m happily single dating amazing men and growing personally. Good things never come from comfort zone ?? kind regards

  2. I just don’t like my spouse and feel scared of him but do not know why. His laziness and lying make me very very sad…..my kids have noticed it and my family question it. My spouse has no hobbies or interest in anything….he just watches cartoons and “boy movies” and could not name one interest/hobby when asked. i am just bereft and dont know where to turn….he will not go to counselling as thinks it is ridiculous.

    1. Perhpas he has depression? Has he always been that way, though? I doubt it. Otherwise you wouldn’t have married him! 🙂 Seriously have you tried giving subtle hints about how he ought to take on a certain hobby? If he can’t take the hint, you can communicate directly about how it’s been bothering you. Really though… it’s really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation. Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

    2. Brad Browning I have a similar case. husband only watches movies on iPad and TV. no interest for anything. doesn’t seem depressed, he takes on trips and laughs with the kids but rejects every effort of connection no matter how small I make beyond talking about the kids or house. He gradually became that way, I’d say getting more into his work but was never full of hobbies… and now our social life is down to minus zero.

  3. after this video. I know that my marrage is over. My husband is toxic for me…for everybody, I need a plan and devorce this parasite.

    1. so brad only mentioned 3 things as reasons to really pursue a divorce. was he committing one of those or are you just upset? cause everything else can be fixed. why waste your time and your husbands (i mean the years you’ve put in). sure you can find someone else, but chances are you will hit some of the same speed bumps again. so maybe instead of running you should fix it to the point of where it won’t happen again.but if it does, you know how to fix it.

  4. In my relationship we have been forced to live separated and after a year i decided to move to him and due to alot of finical problems i had to move back to continue my work. and i am ADHD and it causes more problems. and now i am not sure what to do. he seems distance and i been feeling bored with the relationship. WIth our current situation we would be able to live together in two years.

    1. Sorry to hear that. While there is pretty much nothing you can do with the distance, I suggest you stay busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back…and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at  www.breakupbrad.com  Watch this as reference, too, for a long distance relationship: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5nfWRJRrnAs Good luck!

  5. We haven’t had sex for four years. So I am leaving as we are not even kissing. My husband is a germaphobic. He hasn’t touch me since I have become a diabetic. He knows he can’t catch diabetes but he is weird like that. So I’ve had enough and leaving.

    1. Sorry to hear that. I doubt that’s always the case though? What happened? Have you encouraged him to seek treatment? Moreover is he doing something about it? And are you happy with your choice? I’m sorry, but there’s lots of missing pieces here, sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program instead so I can look into your situation more clearly and figure out what’s going on, then guide you on a regular basis at http://www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!

  6. if we are physically separated now 6 months, yet have had sexual relations yet he is sexual with others outside of us… how can we begin to mend?

  7. My spouse told me she had certain expectations from me but never told me what they were. She also stated that she shouldn’t have to tell me I should already be aware of it. She lives in a bubble, when things get rough even outside of our marriage she runs away because it’s easy. She had issues growing up with not feeling loved from her parents and all. Everything is always dark in her world she can never seem to look at the big picture, she sulks, gets disconnected from the world and thinks everyone has done her wrong. It’s a habitual thinking pattern for her that doesn’t work and won’t work for anyone who shuts people out. She even goes to the extreme of acting like she has no time for drama but that’s all she talks about. Most of her day is spent observing and analyzing the life  others almost like being on the sideline of life. If passion is gone you work to restore, if intimacy is not there you find a solution, if you have problems with people you speak up like an adult and face yourself. The f it everybody attitude is a cop out if you ask me and wherever you go your problems follow you. I also asked if she wanted to do counseling she said no. Anyway I’m dealing with a beautiful person who doesn’t know their beauty, who listens to people with broken relationships, and who won’t take ownership for not showing up in their own life. Sorry for the rant and thanks for taking time to read this.

    1. It’s time to look at your marriage from an outside perspective. If she’s not willing to talk, then that could be a problem though. This is why I’ve released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at  http://www.marriageguy.com  as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids, monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: http://y2u.be/P-6MMmmObcQ and http://y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at http://www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!

  8. Hey brad my wife and I are on the brink of divorce. I’ve erased innocent text messages 3 years ago and she claims I cheated. Then I did not tell her I had a friend that I use to talk to. I pulled her away from her dying grandmother to drop me off at home because my daughter had school the next day and her grandmother passed away. I’ve tried everything a sincere apology marriage counseling and she dropped that. What should I do I still love her with all my heart and I regret every last mistake I have made. But she does not believe a word I say. Is my marriage worth saving?

    1. Sorry to hear it. She may just be mad and grieving through the loss. In other words, she’s going through a lot and the stress may be getting to her. Give her time and show her you understand her by being there. Don’t make her feel pressured in any way. Look for ways to rebuild trust. Anyway this is why I’ve released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at  http://www.marriageguy.com  as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids, monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. These videos are for you, too: http://y2u.be/P-6MMmmObcQ and http://y2u.be/z262BzLvwAk or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at http://www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!

  9. hi my name is Charles Williams and I really need some advice my wife cheated on me 2 month ago and she beg me to stay so I did and we have done nothing but fight I really don’t know what to do

  10. my husband is very cold and distant at times with me and children. we have 3 boys and they cry when dad is like this. i tried talking to him iver and over again and then he becomes angry and says i think im the perfect parent.

    1. Sorry to hear that. Has he always been like this, though? I posted a similar topic, here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXmO_8F3dGc&t=2s But when did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU0yhd3ADXU and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_vzHFqnasM&t=7s but it’s really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation… Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

  11. Hi Brad, my wife of 10 years dropped a bomb on me 2 months ago and told me she was in love with someone else. We lived together for about a month and a half until she moved in with this guy. During that time we talked a lot and she told me that she is confused and still loves me but also feels “love” for him too, even though she barely knows him. She says that she doesn’t know what she really wants and she may want to come home but needs to find out If what she feels for him is real or not. I love my wife and want to fix our marriage and save our family, but what do I do? We still have an intimate relationship and still say “I love you” when we talk even though she is living with him. I can’t try the no contact tactic to make her think of me because we have kids and have to communicate. How can I win her back, and make her realize that she has rose colored glasses on with this guy.

    1. Hello, Michael! I suggest to try to get to the root of the problem. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? What happened two months ago? These may help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU0yhd3ADXU and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W_vzHFqnasM&t=7s but it’s really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation… Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

  12. this guy is living in the imagenary world and according to what he said 99% of couples should get divorce??

    1. Let’s use common sense. I’m not a relationship/marriage counselor because I wanted people to get a divorce. Duh?

  13. Funny to read all the comments from women searching for some cheap excuse to abandon their marriage. All of them never even understood the idea behind marriage.

    They bought into the Disney inspired “happily ever after” fantasy like 9 year old children. Then something happened. they don’t feel happy now. Poor them. Just like soldiers who run from the battlefield once “playing war” is no longer as much fun as they thought it would be.

    Ladies, stop looking for excuses and just go. Like those soldiers, your vow of “till death do us part” was just code for “until my sorry azz feels like I am not getting the ROI that I expected”.

    No problem. Just go. And while you’re at it. You don’t have to pay your mortgage anymore. It’s cool. After all, think of all the other things you could be doing with that money to make you happy. Cause after all. That’s what life is all about. Making sure you feel happy 24/7/365. Anything that doesn’t support that, screw it. It’s cool.

    Happiness is out there. You just have to find it. LOL.

    1. I totally get your point. Some people do have an unrealistic expectation of how a marriage should be and how it’s supposed to work. When the fantasy is shattered by reality, that’s when people struggle to stay/maintain their marriage. But this is why knowing yourself (knowing yourself enough to see if marriage is for you, before getting married) can really help. Marriage requires maturity. Good analogy!

  14. I need your help i don’t know how to show my feelings to my wife and also caught me talking to others girls this is the 3thrd time she as caught me but I never had sex with this girls but I want change

  15. just found out my spouse had an affair/relationship outside outr marriage for many years he came clean ended it And wants to work on our marriage been married 20 years ups and down consequences out of his affair he had a kid …I’m trying to move on past this I’ve accepted the little boy he’s in my home I treat him equal to my girls and don’t hold no hate ..my problem is getting over the hurt letting go ….I do still love him and I feel he’s trying to do things the right way for me to forgive him …

    1. I understand where you’re coming from. It’s amazing how you’ve been so forgiving about the kid. Not everyone is capable of what you’ve been doing. As for trying to forgive him, that would be a personal journey, but if i get more details about the situation, I can try to help out. I’ve recently released a vid, have your husband watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FNa8nYnposM

  16. Hi Brad, my wife and I of 15 years are in a trial separation. We have 2 younger sons and both of us aren’t happy in our marriage. We are both unhappy with ourselves and got lazy in our marriage. We would at times constantly argue and later not really do activities in our marriage. We have talked divorce before off and on for a few years but thought things could change the next time. Things would get better for a short time then go back to the same bad habits. My wife decided just a week ago for a trial separation. She said that the only reason I’m still around is for our sons. If we didn’t have children we would have been filing for divorce. She isn’t in love me anymore. We haven’t been arguing since she initially started this. She said she wants her space to see if she likes living single. Been very corgial. I’m trying to make changes in my life now but she said it’s too little too late. I want marriage counseling but she doesn’t. She said she has put that wall up. Is there any hope at all to save this marriage.

    1. Sorry to hear that. A marriage getting in a rut often happens in long term relationships, especially a marriage. Try to look back in retrospect, though. When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These may help: http://y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and http://y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it’s really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation… Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

  17. you mention walking on eggshells @5:18 over the years, my wife repeatedly has said she felt like she’s had to walk on eggshells, more or less because i might lash out. that would always annoy me as i would have much rather she speak her mind. and i told her exactly that, speak your mind. it was her way of avoiding confrontation i guess. but how does that make her eggshell logic okay? you say in this video, “if she feels like she’s walking on eggshells, it’s a strong indicator that you and your spouse aren’t meant to be”. considering she could easily speak up in a loving tone, there would be no confrontation. she’s done it in the past. i just don’t see how that is an indicator. if anything it’s an indicator that the person that is doing the “walking on eggshells” needs to learn to address the situation calmly. smh bunch of bs that i get hell for that.

    1. Thanks for dropping by! Yes, I know here you’re coming from. The thing why I said that is, when one has to walk on eggshells, that person doing the walking has to be very careful because it might trigger something. In your case, for example, it’s triggering you lashing out. When she’s careful, she’s essentially limiting her self expression which is important so as not to breed grounds for resentment in the future. Case in point, if she can’t talk to you because you might lash out, then that’s actually a stressor and nobody could put up with it for so long… initially maybe, but in my years of experience in counseling people, she’s bound to burst one day. The solution is to encourage her to talk and what’s most important is to let her know it’s safe to do so (you won’t be lashing out). Creating a safe environment where she can express herself is a start, just try to gently coax her out of her shell. 🙂

    2. funny thing is, a year ago, she brought up something she knew i didn’t agree with. (depression) and i sat down, listened, and was loving. basically the exact opposite of how she thought i would react. so it proved her wrong. so even as much as she said eggshells, i told her to stop acting that way because that wouldn’t happen. and i didn’t.

  18. Hi Brad,
    Need your advice please.
    My wife and I have currently separated we have three young kids together she is wanting friendship only. We were together for 7.5 years and I am madly in love with her but I have gone through some depression of late and I am seeking help to mend myself for my family.
    It’s hard as I have a lot of contact with her helping out with kids.
    I’m trying to stay positive and helpful but I think we are spending to much time together because of the kids.
    I want to try counselling or online help to mend the marriage but she is not willing at this stage it’s been eight weeks since she moved out.
    No contact for one month is very hard with text from her to come around for dinner or bring some wood for her fire.
    I love them all with my whole heart and would do anything to mend our wonderful marriage we once had.
    Regards
    Adam

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