32 thoughts on “Repair Your Relationship When All Hope Seems Lost – Tony Robbins 2017

  1. He is by far the most amazing man I have ever come across . Very powerful words 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  2. I loved this! So many deep issues and showing you where ‘life’ can take you. Such a nice ending to see the couple so happy too. The part where the husband said whisper to me and I’ll tell him was just ace and is an indication they have reconnected.

    1. Marie Savannah I never even noticed that he did until tonight. And I don’t even swear, myself. Lol

  3. Hi Tony, my name is Maggie and my husband is Luis. in April 2017, after a moment anger I threw my husband out of the house his constant frustrations towards me anger towards me and his constant need to to blame me for his inability to be happy. I did it in at moment where I felt like he was always trying to put the blame On me. After a few days of being without him I reached out to him and told him that it was a mistake for me to have kicked him out and that I did it in a moment of anger when what I should have done was take a deep breath and let him know that I needed to be alone for a minute to recover from the argument we had just had. He said that I hurt him with my words and said that He said that he needed time away from me to destress so that he could have the opportunity to find his purpose in life. My mistake was that I was so hurt that when he said he wanted time away from me, was that I constantly looked for him and reminded him everyday that I loved him and missed him and that I would be willing to wait for him. In August I made the mistake of letting him know that it had been awhile since having sexual relations because I hadn’t been unfaithful to him, and he assured me that he was feeling the same way and that he hadn’t had sex in a long time for same reason, and that he wanted to come over to have sex only with the condition that it was just sex. Within minutes he came home and basically started kissing passionately and I made love to him I say I, because he assured me it was just sex. In my mind, I of course agreed verbally to him but in my heart, I thought to myself, maybe he’d have a change of heart. Maybe he’d realize he loves and misses me like I love and miss him to?.After I made love to him, we payed with each other. He caressing my back and stroking my hair and me I with my hand caressing his thinking to myself: I hope he has a change of heart and just took in the moment. He asked how the kids where doing from my first marriage who are currently 19 and 22 , but would think to myself, “if anything, you should be asking them yourself. You helped raise them since they were 5 and 7.” Anyway, after about an hour of just talking about all the new things he’s doing with his life- he confessed to me that it was being alone with out all the stresses of being married and being limited in his life to fulfill the things he wanted to accomplish. It hurt me but I just nodded and listened intently and tried to show him support and understanding. He talked about how he was changing his image and going to a Christian church and quite honestly it made me happy but sad at the same because for years, I wanted him to do that with us. I told him that that was the way I had always wanted him to dress because he looks so handsome, but then he got irritated and said that he started dressing like that because he wanted it to be his decision not me telling him what to wear. Then he said it was getting late and he had to leave because he said to get up early for work so again we said our goodbyes. A couple of days have passed and he called me and said that he couldn’t really find anything that he was craving to eat out on the street so I told him I had made dinner and that he was welcome to stop by and I would serve him a plate, so he agreed and came by. he say he had to leave cause it was getting late and he had to work the next day as I did. I didn’t show it bothered me, I just agreed and will walking to the front door and we say our goodbyes and he’d leave. Then the next day he would call me and ask what I was doing and I would tell him that I was watching a movie. And he asked if you could come over and spend time with and of course I agreed. She came over again within minutes but before coming over he said that he had to do a load of laundry and wasn’t sure that he would be able to spend too much time with me because he’d have to leave to wash his laundry for the next day. So I told him he was welcome to do his load of laundry at our house, so he brought his dirty laundry and I told him he could wash while we spent time together. Once he threw his clothes in the washer to start washing them, he turned to me and hugged me and took me by the hand and led me to the room. we made love again that night, only this time he was unable to ejaculate and seemed to get frustrated. I apologized to him for being able to orgasm and for not able to “help him.” It made Me feel like I didn’t turn him on anymore. He just replied that it was okay. By that time his clothes were ready to be thrown in the dryer but he decided it was best that he left and chose to take them with him wet and dry them at his place. ( I failed to tell you that he moved in to his friends house with the wife and two kids down the street.) The Following day he called and said that he was hungry and was in able to find something that he was craving and I offered him a plate of food since I had cook that night. He agreed and came over. That day I was a little emotional and Ask him while we were eating if he was willing to come back home. He got mad and pushed his plate away and said “I knew this was a bad idea me coming here!“ So he got upset and tried to leave but I grabbed his arm and held him back and told him that I missed him and that I wanted him to come back….

    1. Maggie Quezada: I read your whole message and just wanted you to know I feel compassion for you. You deserve better. I think it’s lovely that you were honest and vulnerable to say you love him and want him back… but don’t keep letting him have the perks of being married without recommitting himself to your marriage. Don’t feed him food, don’t let him come hang out, don’t have long conversations. Men usually get into relationships right away when they are hurting and don’t figure things out as quickly as women. So, he may date another woman for a couple years and then finally realize he was an idiot. Maybe he’ll never come back. But it definitely won’t be as soon as you’d like it to be. It’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to move on. It’s okay to feel upset or angry but he’s going through something you can’t solve or fix for him. There’s no point in staying mad because who knows what he has been going through on the inside that led him to these conclusions. Be grateful you had 13 good years, keep loving, kindly put up boundaries with him so he gets the chance to miss you more deeply, and move on when you’re ready. Hugs

    2. I’m going through something like this at the moment I got put out the house two weeks ago. It sucks I just wish me and her could get on the same page. All my dreams have turned to nightmares I’m just trying to stay positive and focused. I hope your situation works out for you !

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    But his reply to me was that he wasn’t ready and wasn’t sure if he even wanted to because of how much I hurt him when I kicked him out. So I said to him “so you’re just going to throw me away like a piece of trash?!” And that made him angry and again he try to leave. So I said to him “OK, there’s the door. I’m not gonna stop you from leaving but just remember that I love you and I will always be here for you.” And I turned around and walked away to our room. At that point I thought he would just leave, but he didn’t. He waited a few minutes and went to our room where I was crying and he asked me to go to the living room with him to talk. I followed him back to the living room and we talked for a moment and he hugged me and said he was sorry for everything that he was doing to me but that he needed time to find himself and went to his purpose in life was. He asked if I would please hug him and so I did and we looked at each other and kissed passionately and then he said he had to leave because it was getting late, so we said our goodbyes. Days passed and he asked what I was doing and asked me if I wanted to share a bottle of wine with him and of course I agreed, so again within minutes he arrived at the house, he came inside and we grabbed a couple of wine glasses and sat in the backyard and talked like old times. As we enjoyed the bottle of wine I just sat there and listened to attentively. He asked me how I was doing and I said I was good but got a little teary-eyed and he reached over and put his hand on my knee and asked me not to be sad. I kind of smiled and said “I know, it’s just hard for me because I love you and I miss you and you’ll always be the love of my life. I saw his attitude change; he nodded like he was regretting having gone to see me. He became upset. Then he said, “I don’t know why I keep coming over because all you do is try to make me feel guilty and you continue pressuring me.” After that day his visits stopped, he became very mean whenever we would have phone conversations. He said that I needed to understand that he needed time away. A week later he called me and said that he was never going to come back and that he would never put himself in that situation Of getting kicked out of the house and not having anybody to turn to for anywhere to go. He assured me that he would never remarry and didn’t even want to think about having a girlfriend. He said he needed to be free after being married for more than 13 years with me. A week after that I found out that he had met somebody and was having our long conversations with this woman and for the past two months has been dating her and has even started to spend some nights at her house. I found out that this woman is 13 years younger than I am and has a 10-year-old. What hurt me the most is how he lied about not wanting to be in a relationship and mostly because my two kids home we were raised together since they were five years old and seven years old have not heard from him since he left in April. Both of them have expressed how hurt they are for him not even calling or texting him to see how they are doing. He rejected my son’s high school graduation invitation and did not attend. I feel like he has completely forgot about his family. Because that’s what we were to him. How do you come back from something like that? How do you even start to forgive him for not only decided to give up on us but to completely forget about all the memories that we shared. It’s hard for me to understand. Even after everything that he’s doing, and after knowing that he’s starting a new relationship, I still want him back. He’s my husband and I love him with all my heart. I can’t just give up on 13 1/2 years. But unfortunately, it doesn’t even seem like it’s affecting him at all. I feel broken and I hate to see my kids going through this and I mostly hate to see my kids been unable to get through this. I’m trying to set an example for my kids and some days are good but most days are really bad to the point where I find myself wanting to hurt myself because the pain so intense. The sad thing is that everybody that he surrounds himself with pulls him further apart for me. They’ve never agreed with him and I being together because I had kids from a previous marriage and quite honestly they felt that he shouldn’t have to support kids that aren’t his own. I wish he had friends like you and your wife to talk to him, to give him advice and to make him realize that you have to work hard on your marriage and not just walk away, and that no one’s marriage is perfect. It’s been a month since we’ve talked, and I’m afraid to for fear that I’ll get emotional and the last thing I want is for him to see me cry. I want him to think that I’m okay. Because I don’t want to put him on a pedestal and let him think that he broke me, when in fact that’s exactly what he did. He’s even had the nerve to tell me that I’m obsessed with him. But that’s not it at all. He’s not just some boyfriend that I was with for weeks or months or even a couple of years. He’s my husband were not divorced, we’re just separated Because he hasn’t filed for divorce yet. I’m fighting for him because I love him.
    I don’t know if you’re able to help me at all but at this point it’s worth a try. Maybe some advice or quite honestly I don’t know Because he would never lend himself to try to get help. I thank you for taking the time to read about my marriage situation. And I’m not saying it’s all his fault I can use advice myself. I’m not trying to bash him I just want him and I to get some help but without his cooperation I don’t think it’ll ever happen.
    I guess I just hope that he’ll come back home. Do men go back to their wives? Is there an ounce of hope?

    Looking forward to hearing from you

    1. Maggie Quezada look into narcissistic personality disorder. He seems to be one, and when you threw him out instead of him looking at it as a reason to change he discarded you. I would stop contacting him and move on, it doesn’t have to be romantically but if he sees you are happy without him he will most likely come back. Whether or not you really want that you will have to see. Check out what narcissists do and see if that fits. You may be better of cutting your losses, although I know that’s not what you want. God bless.

    2. Im on the same boat myself , my short version story is I went to California to go to a concert and I had only packed for the weekend after the concert I got a phone call to find other living arrangements…I took that as don’t come back and so I had to start all over , we have 5 kids and 20yrs if marriage….in the time I was in California, nearly 8 months now she told me she was out dating guys and claims to have only one intimate affair in October and that it was short lived…she just admitted this last Tuesday about the affair to me and I’m completely destroyed because we were intimate when I showed up to spend Christmas with the family, at tbis time I had no idea she had been with another man and when I found out I was upset that she couldn’t have told me before we were intimate…..you see I don’t know exactly how many partners she has had and now the total disregard about not telling me or to even consider that she is playing with my life, health, . I don’t want to find out I have a disease from her infidelity on top of which dealing with visions in my head…im going to try and save my marriage because I cannot go on with my life knowing that i didn’t try…I still haven’t seen her face to face and I want to believe it was only one person she was with …..I fear that as we move forward I am going to find out that she had multiple partners because I will need to know and have closure with this so we can start over…in talking to her about our future she seems very comfortable and validated in her actions and I don’t hear remorse in her voice….it almost seems like “you shouldn’t have left and I wouldn’t have done this so it’s your fault”….I don’t think she understands what I’m going through as a man… any advice ??? Thank you for reading….

    3. Brian Hernandez hang in their Brian. If you really want to save your marriage and your wife is willing. Forgiveness is the what you need to give her. You must forgive all that she has done and move forward and start a new relationship regardless of who she has been with. Your wife must also take responsibility for her actions, if she is willing, seek proper counsel. Like I posted before look up narcissistic behavior and see if it fits. It’s very frustrating dealing with someone like this. They don’t have regular emotional connections or feel like they are ever wrong. They can be in a long relationship, and move on like it never happened – then blame you for everything, and you will just be in a daze. I am going through a very similar thing right now and my faith in the lord has gotten me through. I have two amazing boys and a marriage of 11 years that seems to be over. It was amazing how fast the process went, from loving but having issues to me moving out within a month and pretty much erased. I had to just cut contact except for issues with my boys or money. I am open to reconciliation but only in the right circumstance. I feel your pain man. If you need someone to talk to let me know.

  5. Who is this woman who does the narration? Good golly Tony is a world renowned motivational speaker and I’m positive he can ride his own wave. Tony’s audience can therefore subtract the information by themselves, he’s THAT good, stop piggy backing and do your own videos

    1. Why don’t you watch the video, learn something and express some gratitude, instead of bashing irrelevancy out of frustration?

  6. The most touching, amazing transformation, her smile at the end had literally filled in my room.
    Tony-what a gift you have- my greatest respect…It would be greatest honour to be able to talk to you.

  7. What an amazing video, thank you for sharing. I wish I had seen this months earlier to share with others. Live your best life.

  8. I have noticed over the past 9 months i have been catching my husband masterbating in bed right next to me…when confronted he totally disregards and makes it like i am crazy…seeing things..or to tally lies his way out…is there something i am doing or not doing that i need to be aware of…there is nothing i wouldnt do for my husband to keep him happy and satisfied but i feel that he isnt attracted or at thos point…im not sure what to think anymore…even after sex he is back to his tactics and like what we have isnt ever enuf…begining to wonder if it ever was enuf or if he has been doing this all along and now i have just opened my eyez to the whole situation…i feel it to be disgusting and that im not wanting him to even touch me at times…this is no way for a wife to feel ever about her husband and father of her children…advice please!!!

  9. I like that woman’s voice it gets your attention , & it’s gentle … Some people always complain !!!

  10. And Tony is awesome !!!! The swearing ? Sometimes it’s the only way people will get it ( although I don’t swear ) this is an amazing outcome & outlook to remember !!! Salute !!

  11. I can’t relate to gambling addiction so I didn’t plan on watching, but I’m glad that I did. I loved the update at the end, just seeing how happy she and her husband are! It was truly a beautiful thing to watch! 🙂

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